Empty
Nesters Still Need Love
Empty nesters are couples
who must learn again how to focus on each other as their
children are no longer their major concern or
responsibility. At this junction of their lives, the
focus now has shifted to spending more time together
than in times past. Even in the empty nest years, each
spouse still has needs that need be met.
The question then
becomes, what do they do now, as it’s just the two of
them? Marriage was ordained by God from the very
beginning as it was God who said concerning Adam “It is
not good that man should be alone”. Marriage in the
sight of God is a life long commitment. During this
commitment; one’s marriage will go through many
different stages; trials; as well as many joys and
celebrations.
Marriage
begins with two, and then along the way children come
along increasing the amount of responsibility. From
birth until these children grow up and move out, both
spouses are consumed with their growth and development.
When this transition
takes place, the children begin their own lives leaving
the parents often times in a state of “what do we do
now”. If the couple has not built a strong interactive
relationship with each other while the children were in
the home, there can be adjustment problems now that the
children are no longer the focus of attention. When a
spouse feels neglected and their needs are not being met
this places great strain on the marital relationship.
The empty nest years
should be and can be a great time for the couples who
recognize they now have “time” just for each other. Now
is the time to make the decision to focus on each other
and to enjoy every minute together looking forward to
all that God has in store for you. Your time together as
“Empty Nesters” should be so bright that you’ll have to
wear sunglasses. |