He Did What?! She Did What?!
interesting how there are times in a marital
relationship when things seem to be going along just
fine, then a “He did what! or She did what!” becomes the
topic of the day. Often times in marriage, a spouse will
make a mistake and do or say something that causes great
pain for their spouse and thus tension develops. When
this happens, one must realize that this is not a
healthy mode in which to remain.
If there is to be a sense
of peace and well-being in a marriage relationship, both
parties involved must become sensitive to the feelings
and needs of the other. To be insensitive to a spouse’s
emotional needs will continually keep one in the “He did
what! or “She did what!” mode.
Feelings do matter
therefore, every conscious effort should be used towards
minimizing the number of occasions that the “He did
what! or She did what! occur. This is made possible by
making a decision to change your attitude and mindset
towards building up your spouse and not trying to tear
The Bible speaks to the
fact that “For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”
(Proverbs 23:7). Thus, what one constantly thinks about
or does is who they really are.
question becomes, are you really doing all that you can
do to enhance your marriage relationship or are you just
trying to get by with the least amount of effort? If
it’s the latter, you can be assured that your marital
relationship will remain in the “insufficient funds”
category, which is just like writing a check and there’s
no money in the checking account to cover it.
Make a commitment to
yourself and your spouse that you will strive to a
better husband and a better wife as God would have you
to be. Take each day as it comes and focus on making it
a wholesome and vibrant day for each other.
Renew your commitment to
each other in the spirit of love and respect and you can
be assured those “He did what", and "she did what” days
will become fewer and fewer in the days ahead.