15:15 “All the days of the afflicted are evil; but he
that is a merry heart hath a continual feast."
So often in the marriage
relationship both the husband and the wife forget the
happiness that brought them together. The challenges of
life seem to take control and both find themselves
saying and doing things that inflict pain on the other.
When this occurs, the happiness in the marriage is
threaten and choices are made that can influence the end
result of the marriage relationship. Both the husband
and the wife must remember that they can choose to be
happy or sad, thus there is always the opportunity to be
one with: “a merry heart that hath a continual feast”.
Happiness is possible throughout the marriage; one must
remember that happiness is a choice.
Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel purposes (plans go awry)
are disappointed; but in the multitude of counselors
they are established."
is at the very soul of the marriage relationship and so
often this is a forgotten virtue that is needed for a
strong and vibrant marriage. Two individuals come
together with different thoughts and ways of doing
things and thus, become “one” and sometimes the
independent thinking of both dominates the relationship.
If a marriage is to be what God would have it to be,
there must be a meeting of the minds. Both the husband
and the wife must realize that they are a “team” and a
“team” is most successful when each member recognizes
they need the input and involvement of other members in
order to accomplish the identified goal. Thus,
communication collectively should be at the forefront of
the marriage relationship, thereby the best plans are:
“established in the multitude of counselors”. Work
together as the team for the good of your marriage and
God will bless your effort.
Matthew 7:12 “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would
that men should do to you, do ye even so to them…”
wants to be appreciated and loved for who they are, yet
many times what is forgotten is that “love and
appreciation” is a two-way street. If you want to
receive the “love and appreciation” of your spouse –
remember you must be willing to show and demonstrate the
same in order to receive. If you want it, you’ve got to
James 2:17: “Even so faith, if it hath not works, is
dead, being alone."
If a marriage that is in
trouble is to be renewed and transformed to its original
state, it will require a concerted effort on the part of
both spouses. Just thinking that things will get better
on their own without any “work”, is like having faith
that: “is dead, being alone”. Be willing to put in the
time and energy to reestablish the love and commitment
you once had. Pray to God asking Him to bless your
efforts to be the husband and wife you were meant to be.